I was asked the question.
I have been asked it before but this time I knew 5 year old female child was serious
So I asked a questions back "Do you want to know all the details or some of the details"
"Oh only half the details Mum"
"Ok well a man has sperm and the woman has the egg and they need to come together to make a baby."
"Well how do they meet, the man and woman?"
And then I got it, the question wasn't about how babies are made at all. It was about how one meets a partner to make babies. So this is what I said:
If you carry on with doing, what you love you will meet someone who loves what you do as they are on the same or similar path. Daddy and I met because I was travelling the world, at the time working on boats and he was doing the same thing. Then Daddy and I got talking, lots of talking and we wanted the same thing for the future too. Grandad and Grandma met because they were living and working in North Queensland in the same place. Grandad had been travelling the world and loved this part of the Australian coast and had already decided he wanted to stop for a while and settle down for a bit.
The next part of the story I was telling went along the lines of knowing someone is "the one" when you feel that connection and feel they will support you, nurture you and love you enough to want to do the same for any children that come along through you.
I have to admit I felt a little inadequate, how did I really know? Did I really consciously make this choice and am I telling the right story to someone so young so vulnerable so unknowing? When I talked to hubby he asked me to "rate myself", know that she is asking that question of the right person, her mother who she loves trusts and is truly asking the question because of this.
Upon reflection I felt honoured and humbled. It is a beautiful thing to be the window through to possibilities for the future, to be the knowledge base by which one creates their own path.
She is such a empathic, caring, kind, considerate individual, this five year old who came through me. I truly feel honoured to simply be her mother and have the opportunity to relearn all these traits when I see them being played out in such a pure form xx
